Psychology as Technology
for Self Development
Question : Hello, I am 25 y.o male. My problem is extreme shyness, which is troturing me and destroying my life. I have failed big time due to this feature in many areas :social life, career, relationships. I always try to "look good" for others people often ignoring my own needs. I feel that I lose respect by this way, but I can do nothing to change it.
Answer : Hello , shyness and low self esteem problems you mentioned can arise as a consequence of some deep trauma. As you mentioned :"people pleasing" pattern is its mechanism. You can solve this problem after you learn to work with our transformation tools.